where i've been
Hey there.
scoped
feeling better
cluck, cluck.
Me: "Can you proof my blog?"
T.: "Sure."
Me: "Thanks!"
T. (a few minutes later): "No typos, that I could see. Just weirdness."
Me: "Do you want to have me committed?"
T.: "Hardly. We need the eggs."
Me: "I don't understand."
T.: "Old joke about a man who thought he was a chicken."
Me: "SNORT."
riddle me this
up to my eyeballs in print: my best of 2010
happy new year!
In 2010, I:
Made soup.
Started running again and kept at it (in fact, I did the Resolution Run 5K last night before breaking into the wine and fondue).
Started editing my novel. It doesn't really have an ending yet but I don't totally hate what I've written, so that's a start.
Found a writing buddy.
Knit a lot of dish cloths.
Played lots of Scrabble/Lexulous
Had my heartbroken when my dog died.
Went to Florida in the in the summer to get away from a heat wave.
Spent some quality time with girlfriends.
Organized a team for the Run for the Cure, called No Pink for Profit. By run day, we were more than 40 women and we raised more than $20,000.
Fell in love with Twitter.
Finally got a smart phone.
Learned that grief is not a linear process.
Spent a lot of time thinking about community, friends and family. I am very, very lucky.
For 2011, I wish us all love, peace, good health and many wonderful adventures.
but i have an excuse (actually i have a few)
I bailed on National Novel Writing Month on the first day, having written just under 700 words.
I felt like there were too many other interesting bits of writing that I wanted to do, including continuing to edit last year's novel.
And then my life became insane. I've been really hard on myself for all the things I'm not doing lately. This week, though, I've had two people who are very important to me (my coach/therapist and my friend DM) listen to me unload and then tell me that I would have every right to feel overwhelmed with a fraction of what I've got on my plate.
I tend to be hard on myself because I don't work outside the home right now. If I don't go to a job I feel like I should just sail through my other commitments. It felt really good to list everything going on in my life and have two women I respect offer support and sympathy. I've decided that I need to cut myself a lot more slack.
I can do NaNoWriMo next year. I'm OK with that. But I did feel a pang when my son sent me this video:
NaNoWriMo was a fun kind of crazy. I just couldn't let the rest of my life go to do it this year.
makeover day
The Fab Four with Tony from L'Elégance Hair (Tony gave us hours of his time - all day Monday and early Wednesday morning - taking great care with our colour and cuts. This lovely man is an artist. You should all go to St. Laurent Centre and get him to do your hair).
Blogging on the fly today (more pics and words about all of this soon) but I didn't want to let another day go by without acknowledging those who made this possible.
My friends AB for nominating me, SS for coming on Monday and MR for getting up early and joining my family at the studio.
My man and my boys (all photos courtesy of SKW) for the nomination, for getting up early to come to the studio and cheering every step of the way (and for saying that I was beautiful BEFORE I had the makeover).
The staff at Laura, Town Shoes, and L'Elégance Hair Salon.
Tasha and Renée from the St. Laurent Centre for the styling and the support.
To the lovely and talented woman who did all of our makeup on Wednesday morning (her name is escaping me. If you know it, please let me know so I can credit her).
And most of all, to Bernice from the St. Laurent Centre and Beth from the Ottawa Regional Cancer Foundation. These women are dynamos who combine talent and determination with an enormous amount of compassion and kindness.
And finally, I need to mention Paula, JL and Tanya - the women with whom I went through this experience. The love, support and joy that each felt for each other and for me is impossible to express in words. Thanks so much for being so beautiful. I really do love each one of you.
It must be mentioned that this was all in aid of the Courage Campaign of the Ottawa Regional Cancer Foundation. The Foundation is building a Wellspring Centre that will provide "emotional, psychological and educational support, free of charge, to individuals and families living with cancer." As a an ongoing cancer patient, I can tell you that this the kind of thing that Ottawa needs desperately, to go along with the cutting edge medical care from which we all benefit.
It's not too late to make a donation! (The St. Laurent Centre, in addition to funding the makeovers, donated an additional $10,000 to the campaign. I know where I'm doing my Xmas shopping this year).
makeover show tomorrow
For those in the Ottawa area, my makeover will be televised on the A Channel tomorrow morning. My segments will air tomorrow morning at 9:13, 9:35 and 9:48.
Yesterday, I shopped and had my hair done. Tune in tomorrow for the big "reveal." Look at my smile in this pic. I was very spoiled and surrounded by amazingly caring people all day. I was overwhelmed by the kindness and enthusiasm of everyone I met, including the other three women who joined me in this adventure.
Thanks so much to the St. Laurent Centre and the Ottawa Regional Cancer Foundation for making this happen, to T. and AB for nominating me and to SS for coming with me for moral support (and taking all these great photos).
making an adventure

"Are you ready for some news?"
"Is it good news or bad news?" I said, attempting wake up.
"Good news, I think." He was giggling and looked a little stunned.
"Remember when you asked me to nominate you for a makeover at St, Laurent Shopping Centre?"
My eyes widened.
"You're in!"
They he told me that I needed to go to the mall for shopping and consultation and then, on Wednesday, I would be going to /A\ Channel to be made over on the air.
In case you missed that last bit, I'll repeat that this is a TELEVISED MAKEOVER.
"There's more," Tim added as I sat opening and closing my mouth like a fish. "It's a holiday makeover. You know, so that you can be ready for all the holiday parties you go to."
I do not go to any holiday parties where I can't wear jeans and a t-shirt. In fact, that's the smartest thing to wear to most holiday parties I might possibly attend.
"She actually used the word 'sparkly'." My dear spouse was by this point, enjoying himself. "And you have to decide today."
When I read on Twitter that St. Laurent was asking for nominations for cancer survivor makeovers, I impulsively asked T. to submit my name. I was confident that I wouldn't be chosen because I figured they'd want someone who looked more like a cancer patient. And if I were chosen I thought I'd just go to the mall, get made over and then have some pictures taken for their web site.
But I did get chosen. And when I went on Twitter and Facebook and asked my peeps what I should do, the answer was unanimous - "Go for it!"
So I'm going for it.
This is all being organized by the Ottawa Regional Cancer Foundation and I do want to help draw attention to the good work that they do.
The St. Laurent Centre has some really great stores and I could end up with some great new gear and a fresh new look.
I could use the lift. It is easy to feel frumpy when you're out of the work force and pinching pennies. And chemo does take a physical as well as emotional toll.
And it could be fun.
So I've decided to approach this with an open mind and a spirit of adventure.
I'll let you know how it goes.
when the doorbell rang (part 1)
It's 3:00 am and about half an hour ago, my doorbell rang.
At least I think it did, but my spouse thinks I was dreaming. I remember that I was dreaming but about eating pastries while being handed a wad of twenty dollar bills. Who interrupts a dream about eating pastries and getting free money by dreaming the door bell? Some kind of Freudian diet police?
My reaction to the doorbell ringing was swift. I woke up my husband.
And then I lay there all cozy and warm in our bed while he went downstairs to investigate. I even muttered (somewhat sheepishly), "Be careful."
It was like something from one of the sitcoms I watched when I was growing up. Except that by then it was the seventies and eighties and in the sitcoms the wives would tiptoe downstairs behind their husbands.
And the men would usually be clutching a baseball bat.
We don't keep a baseball bat by the bed. We don't even own a baseball bat. The only thing close at hand that would be the approximate size and weight one could swing at an evildoer would be the dog. Who, incidentally, wasn't barking. I suppose one could take that as further evidence that I was dreaming.
So T. went downstairs and checked the front and back doors. There was no one there.
I think that whoever it was ran away. T., as I said before, thinks I dreamed it.
Fortunately, my dear spouse fell back asleep almost immediately. He's snoring now, as I type this, wide awake. Some kind of karmic justice?
The thing is our doorbell did ring, at around this time, last Saturday night when I was out of town. It was also the night before Hallowe'en, which at least in the telling, makes it creepier. But that's a story for another blog post.
Maybe now that I've confessed, I'll be permitted to return to dreamland.
what i would miss
I just did an interesting writing prompt from Old Friend From Far Away by Natalie Goldberg:
"Tell me what you will miss when you die."The instructions were to write for ten minutes without censoring yourself. Here's what I wrote:
My kids
My spouse
My family
My friends
My dog
Beautiful fall days
Walks along the canal with my dog
Getting lost in a book
Taking a nap on a cold afternoon
Knitting with friends
The feeling of euphoria when I write something good
Music
Good food
Laughing
Wondering at art
A hot bath after exercise
Physical intimacy (all kinds)
The happy feeling when I unexpectedly run into someone I like
Learning new things
Aha! moments
Seeing people do good things
Being proud of my children
Noisy gatherings around my dining room table
Doing fun things for the first time
Doing familiar things that make me happy
Connecting creatively or intellectually
Making new friends
Having old friends and family members who 'get' me
Scrabble
Fresh starts
Clean sheets
Small kindnesses
Spectacular acts of bravery
Feeling proud of myself
The way the pavement smells after a summer rain
The possibility of tomorrow
What about you?
ottawa october
In October, I live in the most beautiful place in the world.
On, Thanksgiving week end (two weeks ago for those of you reading outside of Canada), my family was so fortunate to have a wonderful guest. My friend K. and I have been friends since we were 17 years old. We met as new room-mates in Room 1 of McLaughlin House at Lester B. Pearson College of the Pacific. She was there representing the Netherlands and I hailed from Hawkesbury, Ontario.
We became friends pretty much instantly, through struggles with friendships, school and heartbreak and whole lot of fun. We travelled to Vancouver together and she once took me out on a sail boat into the bay so I could engage in a little primal screaming.
In my second year, after she'd graduated, I missed her terribly. We've been lucky though. Work has brought her to Canada three times in the last five years and we've been able to spend time together. My family has fallen in love with her. And I can't wait until next year, when she comes back.
When we were at school together, we lived in a very beautiful place and I know that K. loves this country almost as much as I do. But until this year, she'd never seen Eastern Ontario on a beautiful fall day.
This year, we had a chance to rectify that and we took advantage of the long week end and the glorious fall weather to go for a walk in Gatineau Park. K. was the only one of us who took photos on our outing and she's given me permission to share them with you. My only regret? There are no photos of the two of us together. We'll have to rectify that next year.






just another conversation
I've started to record bits of conversation that occur at our house. This one took place yesterday morning betweem my spouse and me.
T.: "Can you send a Facebook message to someone who's not your Friend on Facebook?"
Me: "You can. I get emails all the time from strange men saying they can't live without me."
T.: "You do?"
Me: "Yes, sometimes they say they saw my photo and that they can't stop thinking about me."
T.: "Wow."
Me: "I especially wonder about those because my profile photo is of the dog."
(Conversation interrupted by laughter)
Me: "I think they might be spam."
T.: "In those cases, I hope they are, because the alternative is disturbing."
down-time at the ottawa folk festival
My spouse and youngest son and I went to the Ottawa Folk Festival this past week end. I love these shots T. took of D. and I chilling out between the afternoon and evening programming.
I didn't have any pockets, so I resorted to an old habit of sticking my cable needle in my cleavage. Except, I don't really have cleavage any more. The pointy cable needle kept falling over and I had to keep reaching into my bra to fish it out.
This amused me.
The scarf I'm making has one asymmetrical cable.
This amuses me, too.
i get personal with the Run for the Cure
This is the text from my page at Run for the Cure site;
Thanks for visiting my personal page.
I was diagnosed with very agressive breast cancer in January 2006. In November of that year, I learned that it had spread to my liver.
My oncologist told me that the were "more tumours than they could count" and when I asked how long I could expect to live, he reluctantly answered, "Years. Not decades."
Fast forward to June 2007, when after several rocky months of treatments, I started feeling much better. Then, on June 30th 2007, a scan confirmed what my body had been telling me - there was no longer any sign of cancer in my body!
I have been in remission for three years. I'll remain in treatment (chemotherapy and Herceptin every four weeks) for the forseeable future, though. There are so few women in my postion that no one can reliably say what will happen if I stop. But I've noticed that my family and are planning ahead and casually making reference to events that will take place years in the future and assuming that I will be there.
I am running on October 3rd so that more women will be granted a future they thought had been stolen from them.
I'm running in the hope that some day soon women like me can walk away from treatment with confidence that the cancer is behind them.
I'm running so that my nieces and other young girls need never worry about breast cancer at all.
I have added a permanent link to the blog (top right hand side) that you can click on any time, if you want to make a donation.
43 things (part two)
43 things (part one)
Yesterday was my birthday. I decided that it would be fun to write a post with 43 things that I had never written about on the blog. This proved to be quite a challenge, especially since I don't seem to have a lot of writing time these days (and it was my birthday, after all).
I've decided to post the list in stages, since I stil only have less than 20 and a post with 43 things would be way too long to be interesting (and I'm hoping this is interesting).
So here goes:
1. I am 43 years old (hence the 43 things).
2. I've decided that I want to lose 44lbs before my 44th birthday.
3. My most memorable birthday presents were my little black dog (who was a Mother's Day, birthday and Christmas present all rolled into one), my trip to BlogHer in '07 and the red bike with the banana seat that I got for my seventh birthday.
4. I wear much less make-up now than I did when I was fifteen.
6. I'm married but I have never celebrated my wedding anniversary. I have celebrated the anniversary of the beginning of our relationship. In March, it will be 20 years (we've been married for 14).
13. I can't curl my tongue, although both kids and my spouse can. This makes me feel oddly left out.