Life is Healthy

by Joel W.

Strange day—to say the least. I've been very good about exercising. I'm still struggling with the diet. I bought a food journal I intend to start using next week. I think that will help.

I have no idea what's going on at my job—if I'll even have one. I pray that God will help me make my life into what I dream it can be. I'm still working on the law of attraction and trying my best to employ "spooky action at a distance" as Einstein called it. Quantum mechanics—a vanguard of physics where science and philosophy merge, according to Science Daily—says that an entangled pair of atoms can have an effect on one another a few feet away, across a room, and even at a distance light years away. I think that's how prayer works.

I have been working hard to understand how science and philosophy merge. That's part of my research into the Secret. Some days I'm more clear than others. Some days I'm lost. Anyway, I'm praying for the absolute best outcome.

Pilates Ring Giveaway
Once again, I want to plug my giveaway: Pilates Ring Giveaway. A Pilates ring is an excellent exercise tool. It provides resistance for chest, thigh, and abs exercise. It's especially good for those darn flabby inner thighs. All you need to do is leave a comment to be entered for a random drawing. It's a nice prize at about a $25 value. You can get additional entries by following by blog and visiting America's Nutrition's website.  Thanks.

I just read an article about secrets married women keep. No, it wasn't about secret affairs or anything that controversial. It was about prenups, taking the husband's last name, and a few other mundane confessions. Here's my confession—although I loved my husband—when I got married I traded passion for turmoil. And I'm not talking about sex.

Before I got married I had passion for my life. I wanted to succeed. I wanted, well, the world. After, I became a married woman. I lost my passion for life along the way. My life became a drudgery of paying bills, going to work, cooking, cleaning—when I got around to it—and dealing with in-laws who didn't like me very much. In fact one time when my beloved husband decided he wasn't going to speak to them anymore because of the bitterness he felt about his life with them, they decided that since that since they hadn't heard from him—I must've killed him. And I'm as serious as a heart attack and that's something I would never joke about.

The story is much longer than what I've shared here (and much of it revolves around a $50 check that got cashed without his signature—even though you can deposit a check and not have to sign it and get the funds from it), but that's the gist of it. When he died in reality, there were members of his family that insisted I must've had something to do with his death—despite an autopsy detailing he'd had coronary artery disease for years. And I'm serious. And they still believe that I have some kind of designs on their money—even though I wouldn't take it if it were offered. I believe much of the animosity centered around jealousy. But the story gets longer from there, and I've aired enough dirty laundry.

Life as a married woman brought so much stress that I have no idea how I 1) stayed married and 2) didn't drop dead myself. I gained a tremendous amount of weight, and lost sight of who I was. It's now been almost five years since he died. And I'm just now getting back to who I was 20 years ago. Don't get me wrong—I loved my life with Al. We loved each other. But the stressors were too high, and the price of married to a man who comes from a family that dysfunctional is too damn high. It's a life lesson well learned, and something I will never do again.

But now it's time to regain my passion. I'm trying to remember who I was and what I wanted. It's been hard. I believe I found a way to get there with the Secret—but even that's going to take time. Fortunately, I still have a lot of years left.

In case you hadn't noticed, this a dumping post. There may be many more over the next few days or weeks—however it turns out to be. Right now, I believe I'm finding my way. But each day is going to be challenge.

Life is turning into a great life. It's taking some effort, but it's been worth it. A real life can unfold for everyone if they just believe they have the power. Their power is not outside of them. It's inside. That's the key. I'm not saying that thinking like this is in anyway easy—especially if you're used to giving your power away. It takes several weeks of telling yourself everyday that your are the one who's in control. But once it starts to sink in, it opens a whole new world to you. It begins with The Secret and it keeps going with you. Think I'm full of it? Give it a shot. The only thing you have to lose is a bad attitude.

Remember: It isn't easy. But it's worth it.

That's all for today. I'm still traveling on my journey to enlightenment. And I'm still avoiding sugar—although I did fall off the wagon this weekend. Never to my benefit though. I always end up getting sick after I eat the sugar. I think I was closer to diabetes than I once thought.

Shrink Yourself talks about powerlessness and the real reasons behind eating to control emotions. This site has some real advice for people who feel like they are out of control.

Sorry I've been MIA for a while. I'm working on The Secret and have had some surprising results. Essentially, I'm rewriting my life. And having some success. As this project goes on, I will keep you up-to-date with my progress. I'm thinking of starting another blog that details my experiences. What I don't want to do right now is lead anyone to believe that I have this thing down pat. I'm still working on it. And it's going to take time. I do feel more in control. And I know that I can only control myself--other people are responsible for their actions or inactions as the case may be. But my life is good. More to come.

I've been on vacation this week. I'm pretending that I'm retired. And retirement will be great. More to come.

10 Things Not to Say to Someone Who's Trying to Lose Weight really hits home. Weight loss support is great—if it's the right kind.

I'm still on my journey to not only lose weight, but become a better, richer, happier person, too. It's all in how you think about it. I've found a lot of resources Steve Pavlina.com discusses how to change your mind on his blog: Personal Development for Smart People.  Manifesting Abundance: Understanding the Law of Attraction provides more explanations about how to change your mind to change your life. There are so many resources out there, it's worth doing a little web surfing.

None of these ideas are new. They've been around for millennia. They were all brought back to us through The Secret. And, for me, it's working. The power of positive thinking isn't just the title of a self-help book. Anyway, give it a shot. I don't think you'll be disappointed.

I've decided that I am the only source of power for myself. I can achieve my goals. I can lose weight, get rich, or anything else I want. I am rising above the darkness, emptiness, and despair. I have fully realized that I am the only person who can lose weight for me. I will no longer use stressful events as an excuse to eat whatever I want. I have power over the food—not the other way around. Join me in this quest to a better life. I think you'll find that it's easier than you think.

Shrink Yourself offers some tips about regaining personal power. The site says that once we realize we are not powerless over food, we can learn to make good decisions. And I can say for sure, that's true. I've been working on myself, and I've learned it's my choice. I am not powerless over a cupcake.

Last night I had another dream in which I was in control. In the dream, someone I know accused me of taking something which I didn't take. She had this little fishing rod, and she said that since I was the last person to touch it, and she had lost it, I should pay for it. I refused. I took her to the truck she had been loading things into and showed her that the fishing rod was still it in it. Then I said, "Now I think you owe me something." She said nothing. I said, "That's what I thought." But I was in control.

If you really want to lose weight, you have to realize you are the only one who has the power to do it. I have found that The Secret also helps people find their power. This way of thinking has brought me to a new place.

I am still doing the Belly Fat Cure. You can also follow Jorge on Facebook.

Last night I dreamed I was standing in the middle of some thick, weeded, overgrowth in a field. I was standing up on a stage—above the weeds. I could see some of my friends were standing several hundred yards away from me. I had no idea how I was going to get to where they were. I walked down off of the stage and, lo' and behold, there was a path that lead me all of the way out of the field—not part of the way, but all of the way. I walked into the light. I was surprised that it had been so easy. And I was ecstatic that I finally did it. That makes two dreams now where I can find my way out of a seemingly impossible situation.

I Have the Power
I have been practicing the methods in The Secret. I think that positive thinking has power—more power than I ever thought possible. What it is doing for me is giving me the power—not food or anything else I've been using to hold me back. And this time, I'm using a different approach. I'm not using desperation—I'm being open to possibilities. I'm thinking in positive terms about everything in my life—not just overeating. I'm also making the power mine and not giving my power away.

Because I've been thinking in these terms, I have been able to stay focused on losing weight. I've been able to stay focused on changing my life. Life has challenges. It's how you approach these challenges that makes them difficult or easy to overcome. Change your mind to change your choices. Then that apple pie doesn't have the importance I once gave it. It's just apple pie.

Sugar Goes Bye-Bye
I am still following the Belly Fat Cure plan. I believe that getting sugar out of my diet has also been one of the things that's lead me to this new place. I feel better, more energetic. And I feel like I can. That's it. Just that I can.

The diet is still going well—and I will once again plug the diet the Belly Fat Cure. I feel lighter. What I like about this diet is that I can eat things I like. I'm giving up sugar, not food.


I was watching Oprah yesterday. She had a guest who discussed why people use food to control their lives. According to Oprah's website "Geneen Roth's book Women, Food, and God has the advice you need to stop dieting and become more aware of what you're eating and how you're eating." And Oprah says she will never diet again. These are the seven guidelines of the book—but Roth warns that unless you're willing to do the soul searching that goes along with them, they're useless—

• Eat when you are hungry.
  
• Eat sitting down in a calm environment. This does not include the car.
  
• Eat without distractions. Distractions include radio, television, newspapers, books, intense or anxiety-producing conversations or music.
  
• Eat what your body wants.
  
• Eat until you are satisfied.
  
• Eat (with the intention of being) in full view of others.
  
• Eat with enjoyment, gusto and pleasure.